Letting It Go
To let go
isn't to forget, not to think about, or ignore. It doesn't leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. Letting go
isn't about winning or losing. It's not about pride and it's not about how you appear, and it's not obsessing or dwelling on the past. Letting go
isn't blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and doesn't leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness.
It's not about giving in or giving up. Letting go
isn't about loss and it's not about defeat. To let go
is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on. It is having an open mind confidence in the future. Letting go
is learning and experiencing and growing. To let go
is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow.
It's about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain. Letting go
is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving. Letting go
is growing up. It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy. To let go
is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free.
Here are 10 Tips to help you navigate the transition when letting go is necessary:
1. Acceptance. Some transitions are welcomed and some are not. Either way, recognize that you are engaged in a transition. Acceptance invokes your personal power to successfully navigate it.
2. Imagine the best. Visualize in your mind the ideal outcomes of the transition (including the harmonious good of all concerned). Continue to build your vision and add the feeling of it within the vision. Building up this feeling state is key to building a future that pulls you toward it, versus you struggling toward it.
3. Seek and accept support. Meet with a , friend, advisor, or therapist on a regular basis to keep you grounded. They can provide a safe space for you to vent, be fully heard, validate your experience, brainstorm ideas, maintain perspective, and simply be yourself.
4. Look for the unbidden opportunities. In the Chinese language, two characters compose the word "crisis." One character represents danger and the other represents opportunity. Even the unwanted transitions can work for your good by presenting opportunities for you to shine, but you've got to recognize them as they come along.
5. Watch your language. Observe your spoken language and the self talk in your head. Is it positive or negative? Does it express blame or creativity? Is it destructive or constructive? Is it rooted in fear or love? Does it look backward or forward? Positive, creative, constructive, and loving language - spoken or thought - makes all the difference for you in your experience of riding the tide of transition and the results on the other side.
6. Engage your daily habits. Select and practice daily habits that support and energize you. They serve as your pillar of stability through the changing times.
7. Evolve. You are most likely back on a learning curve. Make it OK to be a beginner again. It's how we grow and transform. You will inspire others.
8. Treat yourself right. Navigating transition requires extra energy. Ensure that you take care of your body and soul more diligently than usual. Don't forget the extra treats for yourself, you deserve them.
9. Release the past. Honor what has come before, learn from it, and let it go; acknowledge the present, and give thanks for your future.
10. Be patient. Transitions are the stuff of the cycles of life. We can trust that the process of life moves for our good. Ben Sweetland said, "Success is a journey, not a destination." Be assured that it won't be your last adventure through transition. Whenever we get "there," there will be someplace else to go. Anticipate an ever-changing journey to your future.
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